When you are pregnant, the last thing that you want to do is have any stress. Your body is already under a lot of stress growing a person and crafting organs and bones and making a human being from scratch. You do not need any other stress than this, but breaking up during pregnancy is surprisingly common. People are always in love and are coupled together until something massive changes their life and therefore changes their dynamic.
Relationship breakdowns during pregnancy and after a baby are born are actually higher than before pregnancy. The chances are high that you didn’t see this breakup coming, because why would you? If you’ve planned this child and you did so out of love, the last thing that you may have considered is needing the numbers of solicitors in family law. However, being an emotional wreck during pregnancy can affect your unborn child, so you need to do what you can to get through your breakup and keep both you and your unborn child healthy and happy. Here are some tips to help you to get through it.
- Remember that you shouldn’t blame yourself. After a breakup, self reflection is important and it’s essential. It could help you to determine whether you made any mistakes and how you can learn from them. You shouldn’t dwell on what has already happened, because you can’t fix it in a matter how hard you try. The best thing that you can do is try to move forward for just you and for your child. As women, we naturally blame ourselves for a relationship breakdown and take the whole reflection step further and blame ourselves for things that weren’t even our fault. Honestly it doesn’t matter why the relationship broke, you need to make sure that you fix yourself.
- Allow yourself to grieve. When you lose somebody that you have been leaning on and you rely on, your body needs to grieve that loss. There are heightened emotions that come with pregnancy and with the breakup you are facing a reality that you never thought possible. Your dreams and hopes for you and your child have been thrown out the window, and you may never get that back. It’s OK to cry about it.
- Don’t be alone with it. It’s very common to break up during pregnancy as we said earlier on, so don’t stress about it too much. The initial blow will hurt very much and it’s supposed to because it’s a loss, but once you’ve accepted the situation you need to start looking at things rationally and realize that single parenthood isn’t all that bad. Work together to come up with a resolution about childcare and sharing custody, and do what you can to put your child first and not any emotional feelings between the two of you.
- Lean on your village. When it comes to support during pregnancy, speak to friends and family and make sure that you are not alone. You could also speak to your doctor about local parenting groups and mothers groups so that you can surround yourself with people who may understand how you feel. It can really help you to have people around you as you go through this.